As October is headed to the half-way point, it’s finally getting a little cooler here in Nashville. The seasons are starting to shift, as well as a lot of other things in my life. As most of you know, for me the Fall represents more of a new year for some reason. (I blame the new school year all those years).
The other day, Liz and I made a chart of all the forks in the road in not just our lives, but in our boyfriends and our families lives. New jobs, new cities, new contracts, new houses; literally all the above. Things are beginning to “fall” into place. (Hate myself for that one, really.)
As I travel through my life, I’m learning not to be anxious during these times, but excited.
There are so many “what-ifs” and “maybes”, but I’m starting to love them. Life always falls into place the way it’s supposed to, and I’m anxiously awaiting the result of this time. Another thing that’s important to remember when things get to changing is the fact that nothing is permanent. It took me a long time to accept this in life. The only place I haven’t been able to apply this saying to my life is at the nail salon; obviously, a nail color is life changing, really. You can change your situation at any time. You’re never really stuck. Once I learned that, it made all my decision making a whole lot easier. Yes, there are bigger life decisions that are pretty permanent (marriage, kids), but once you learn to separate the permanent life decisions from the non-permanent life decisions, it feels like a weight has been lifted. Say you are moving to a new apartment and you’re worried you’ll be able to hear everything your neighbor is saying; odds are you signed a year lease – not permanent and can be changed after a year. Say you started a new job and two months in you hate it. Start looking for another job. Say you’re starting at college or grad school and you don’t think you made the right decision; consider transferring. You might have to learn to make the best of your situation for a little while, but this is yet another life skill that’s great to practice. Don’t be afraid to change something that isn’t making you happy because you fear the judgement of other people. This is your life, and you don’t owe an explanation to anyone but yourself.
That saying “when it feels like life is falling apart, it’s really your new life falling into place,” really is true. What is it they say? Being an adult is when all those sayings start to make a whole lot of sense.
Embrace the changes and welcome them with open arms. One day you’re going to miss the life you once were afraid to start. Making the best of where you are in this very moment is one of the keys to a happy life. Make friends and enjoy them because this is the time when you never know when they might pick up and move to another city. Eat great food and travel when you can. Love like nothing else matters because at the end of the day nothing else does. Drink a glass of wine at the end of the day and watch your favorite TV show. Change your plans or keep them; whatever makes you the happiest. I don’t know where I’m going to be in a year and neither do you. Life is going to keep moving forward no matter what you do, so check in on yourself every few months to re-evaluate your happiness. You’ve got one life, make the best of it babes.